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This Is All Kinds Of Right of the Day: Artie Goldstein comes from a generation of folks who don’t always understand what it means when their kids reveal themselves to be gay.

But just watch as he comes to terms with his daughter’s impending wedding to another woman — you’ll be in tears by the time he flies across the country to attend the big event.

Bonus points: This video was produced for a big-name company — Expedia! Also, their RINGS.

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Early childhood is also the time when the brain is the most plastic, and most open to change. Kids are laying down tracks that will last the rest of their lives, about gender, about everything.

So every experience a child has - and you know the younger the child, the bigger the effect - the first time they speak, they learn to walk, they learn to talk, they laugh, they cry, they fall down, they run - everything affects their brain on a neurological level, strengthening some neurons at the expense of others.

So when children play in gendered worlds, and are only exposed to the ways, styles and experiences that are attributed to their sex, it has an impact on them. And when they’re exposed to a broader range of styles and experiences, that has an impact, too.

From a talk by Peggy Orenstein about the subject of her new book, “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” on KUOW.

I think this campaign is both awesome and problematic. 

I agree that we should educate people, especially white folk, about racism AND about their own privileged position in society. It’s good to be conscious and humble (and ya know, not racist). Being these things will colour our language and behavior in positive and productive ways.

On the other hand, I’m not sure a campaign that kiiiiiiind of demonizes stock white people is necessarily the most productive solution. Looking at these images (as an anti-racist white female) made me feel like I should be painfully conscious of the fact that I’m privileged, lucky, preferable, in control - especially when around people who are not white.

It also reminded me that some non-white people will hate me because of what my skin color represents. Frankly that’s something I’d rather NOT be so conscious of. I’d rather walk into every relationship as a person engaging with another person, not as a white person walking on eggshells with a non-white person.

The way to eradicate racism isn’t to make all white people feel like shitheads just for being born the special skin color - that’s just more racism and more importantly, GUILT DOES NOT EQUAL CONSCIOUSNESS. You can’t guilt anyone into changing the structure of their brain.

Yes, we should educate people about privilege, but we also should find ways of humanizing people of color (since media doesn’t always do that so well), actually showing healthy interracial relationships, applaud anti or non racist behavior, create media that treats race as a complete non-issue (The first thing I think of is Joss Whedon’s “Firefly”).

Any one of these methods would have made a powerful ad, and might have had the effect of changing white viewers’ perspectives of non-whites and the world, rather than simply layering on the white privilege complex.

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Tropes vs. Women: #6 The Straw Feminist

“The Straw Feminist trope is a deliberately created, exaggerated caricature of a feminist that is used to undermine and ridicule feminist movements.”

As always, Feminist Frequency hits the nail on the head and explains the things that drive us nuts but are so hard to put into words.

Greater Than Lapsed: The Handy Guide to Not Raping People in Seven Easy Steps

earlyfrost:

1. When you meet a girl who doesn’t want to have sex with you, don’t have sex with her.

2. When you meet a girl who wants to have sex with one of your friends, remember the golden rule: You Are A Different Person To Your Friends. Maybe this handy mnemonic can help: Yentl Acted As…

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